Going through a divorce can bring up many feelings that you don’t expect. This shocks some people because they don’t expect to feel sad or upset that the marriage is over especially if they are the person who filed. They think they have come to terms with the split before the petition was filed. We know that it is hard to think clearly when these emotions flood over you.

You can’t let your emotions control what you do when you are working through the divorce. Instead, you need to be able to keep a clear head so that you can make decisions that are in your best interests. This often means that you need to take a step back and look at things from a practical standpoint.

There are two areas where you need to focus if they apply to you. The first is child custody. Your goal is to do what is best for your children, but you can’t let your relationship with their other parent play a role in this. You only need to think about how they interact with each other.

The other area is property division because this can impact your entire financial future both now and in the long term. Make sure that you think about the future costs associated with various arrangements. Keeping a vacation home might seem feasible until you start looking at the expenses you will have to pay. These include things like insurance, maintenance and taxes.

We realize that you might have a lot on your mind right now. We are here to help you learn about your options, so you can move forward in the manner you think is best for your needs.