The process of rebuilding your life after a divorce is going to take time and effort. Whether you are happy about the split or still trying to figure out what went wrong, you can adapt a mental position that helps you to thrive. This is a big life change. Giving yourself permission to feel as you do and being able to address your emotions can benefit you greatly.

Your divorce can be a time of positive change, so remember that you don’t have to view everything in a negative light. Now is the time when you can do things that you feel will better yourself. Trying to find the silver lining in all situations can help you to enjoy your life more without feeling like you are weighed down by negativity.

Even if you are tempted to make big changes now, consider them carefully before jumping in. For example, quitting your job and making a huge career change might seem appealing. But, you have to think about whether you will still think it was the right move in a few years hence. Avoiding making rushed decisions now can help you in the long run.

Remember, too, that your children will look to you to see how you react to the divorce. If they see that you are stressed and always upset, they will likely follow suit. This can make it much more challenging for them to adjust to their “new normal.” It can also make things more difficult for you. Showing yourself and your kids compassion can greatly benefit everyone involved.